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How the suburban lifestyle undermines our mission

“Inviting someone over for dinner in the hostile suburbs is regularly considered pathological. Suburban people are either too busy, too self-protected, or too worried what your agenda might be to ever come over. Likewise, I as a pastor and others in our church are regularly so busy, it hardly seems possible.Do I believe it is impossible? No. We must continue to pursue a relentless practice of being hospitable as a distinctive subversive Christian act in the suburbs. I must change my life to live more simply, have more time and practice neighborhood acts of cooperative living. I must ask my neighbor, co-worker or friend in the park over for dinner “70 times 7″ times if that is what it takes.”

A good article about living the mission of God in the suburbs. Read the whole article here.

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  1. Wow. Great quote from a great article. Couple of thoughts: Perhaps since I am a member of the “post suburban” santa barbara, (a community in which suburban home ownership for the average income is a total myth) I am more detached from this narcissistic form of the American dream. I combined function of my spiritual idealisms and my economic status fused together make it easy for me to agree and to herald its evils. It also creates in me a longing for the future, where the new SB, G, IV, communal life is more urban and collective in nature. I use the word collective to perhaps land somewhere in between communal (think hippies and communists) and suburban. I haven’t processed this much, but, spiritually as well as culturally, I see this shift emerging, where life is processed more communally, where suburbia dies and where collective life (I’m thinking 3rd spaces, shared residential arrangements, etc) become more the norm.

    McCarthy proceeds to describe how the suburbs are built for the idolization of the affectionate family as the end and purpose of all life. The problem? When the family becomes another form of life separated from God and the church, it too becomes another form of self-imploding narcissism.
    By idolizing the family, suburbanites may become focused on consuming more stuff to create the perfect home and family. There is nothing but contrived affection left to keep the home together. And children who learn they are the center of this universe from parents actually develop characters that believe they really are the center of the universe.

    After decades of this suburban lifestyle America is left with families split by divorce, kids leaving in rebellion, and millions on various drugs to relieve the emptiness as the idolized family turns out to be a myth. Apart from the personal destruction the suburbs can bring, suburban isolation also poses a real problem for the spreading of the gospel.

    (Interesting note: James Dobson’s focus on the family. Hmmmmm. Something missing?)

    I plead for a truly subversive Christianity that practices hospitality in the hostile world of the white washed suburbs. I plead for more emerging communities of faith in the suburbs. Let us seek to be faithfully combating the overwhelming Walmartization of Christianity by a vigorous and relentless practice of hospitality.

    HE Program 4. A Encourage Co-housing, and Similar Collaborative Housing
    Development. Work with developers and non-profit housing agencies to provide housing
    using a co-housing model or similar approaches that feature housing units clustered
    around a common area and shared kitchen, dining, laundry and day care facilities.
    Timeframe/Target: 4 low income or special needs units by 2009
    Responsibility: Private and non-profit housing developers and the Planning &
    Environmental Services Department

    HE Program 4.B Provide Appropriate Zoning and Development Standards for Single
    Room Occupancy (SRO) Units and Efficiency Apartments. Establish opportunities for
    development of SRO’s and small efficiency apartments in appropriate locations as lower
    cost rental alternatives for single person households. SRO rooms are, by definition,
    designed for occupancy by no more than one person and are usually very small,
    between 80-200 square feet, typically including a sink and a closet but possibly sharing
    bathroom and shower facilities with other SRO units. Review and revise zoning regulations
    to allow Single Room Occupancy (SRO) units and efficiency apartments in appropriate
    multi-family and mixed-use areas. This review should include:

    HE 5.3 Density Bonuses for Special Needs Housing. Density bonuses per State Density Bonus law
    may be used to assist in meeting special housing needs housing for lower income elderly and
    disabled persons, consistent with roadway capacity, parking needs and neighborhood scale.
    Senior care facilities, including residential care facilities serving more than six people, shall be
    treated as a commercial service use and shall be subject to specific affordability requirements.

    I have crossed the boundary from merely encouraging Christian hospitality into becoming a futurist but whatever. Anybody else thinking this way?

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  1. Swimming in the Divine Chaos… » Blog Archive » How the suburban lifestyle undermines our mission at the transformed, followed by a digressing in the future of Collective living in the Santa Barbara Area linked to this post on April 21, 2006

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